Balance isn’t Perfection

Do you ever sit and wonder how other mom’s are able to do ALL the things but you can barely get through your to-do list? They’re full of the Pinterest project parties and always dressed and looking amazing. You on the other hand are full of Pinterest fails and may or may not be on day 3 of those yoga pants. Take a deep breath mama. It’s alright. Life is about balance and sometimes that means that you don’t have to do it all – because frankly, if you try to do it all, you might just end up burnt out. And being balanced doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect. Those mama’s who look like they’ve got it perfectly together are likely choosing which items to prioritize and maybe looking put together is at the top of their list.

Sit down and come up with a list of things that you’d like to accomplish on a daily basis. Not a to-do list. Just the things you want to get done daily. Shower, maybe? Put on some mascara? Put the kids down for nap? Just small things. Got your list? Good. Now number those things in order of what’s most important to you. Don’t roll your eyes and think about how you don’t have time to use the bathroom, let alone get these things done. Now maybe getting these things done requires that you go to bed a little earlier and wake-up a little earlier. Maybe it means throwing your kids in front of the TV while you get yourself ready. Whatever it might be, take the time to do some things for you. And if you don’t get all the things on your to-do list done, but you feel better about yourself, well than you’re doing something right.

The problem is that we’re always comparing ourselves and our lives to those around us. Yet, we don’t know what their lives are really like. We see these beautiful family photos and the put together mom walking through Target and assume they have it all together and WE must be doing SOMETHING WRONG. Take a step back and remember that no one is perfect and we all struggle with something in our lives. The first step to having any type of balance in your life is to have compassion for yourself when things don’t go exactly as planned.

One way I’ve found to keep myself sane is to use a bullet journal – I track my meals, my water intake, my sleep and write down 10 I’m grateful for. Find something that works that way for you. Make a fresh to-do list every day instead of having one HUGE to-list that stares you down all week. Take baby steps to find your balance. But just remember, you don’t have to perfect. Perfection is an unattainable standard we’ve all created. Life is about being the best version of ourselves and being happy – stop reaching for that unattainable standard.


Author: Brixanne

mom, step mom, wife... all the $#!+ they don't tell you about motherhood

2 thoughts on “Balance isn’t Perfection”

  1. I really needed to read this today because I feel like the “defeated mom” all the time. I have just started up a blog on here to hopefully put my mind at ease. You have some inspirational knowledge and just know you helped someone today. Thank you.


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